7 things motherhood has taught me(extended version)

I actually did an Instagram about the 5 things I learned and wanted to not only elaborate but also give more insight.

1. I think the first and most important thing that I’ve learned as a mom is that I actually want to be a mom.
Before I got pregnant with Max, I was very indifferent to the idea of having a child.
Somewhere between 11 and 20 weeks I was madly in love with my baby and would be anything for him. I think this realization surprised me the most.  Everything I do now including my career is just a how can I do this in a way that would make me a better mom?
2. Learning that I was strong and fragile simultaneously was a very interesting thing to learn. At one point there I am growing a human being, then you give birth to this human being, then you’re able to feed this human being with milk that your body is making, and on top of all that you’re able to keep this baby alive with hardly any sleep. Mind blowing! I am a BADASS. Unfortunately for some women, like myself you’re also experiencing crazy wicked postpartum anxiety. Which for me felt like constant worrying about things that most likely wouldn’t come to pass but feeling extremely unprepared. I remember a time I woke up in tears because I didn’t know what to do in case a bear attacked my baby. First of all, when would a bear attack us? One of our weekly visits to Nordstrom’s perhaps? I can’t explain it but the fear was real and I cried for a long time while my baby laid safely next to me.  That time in my life was so rough, you can’t be afraid to ask for help.
 3. The value of tribal living! You NEED other mommies in your life. The minute you realize you are bringing a baby into the world, you become desperate to join the mommy groups! Not to mention being pregnant and then a new mom is lonely and isolating.
 4. Marriage is a big topic, almost needs it’s own blog post.  It’s so important that you and your partner discuss expectations. I feel like a woman goes into this experience thinking my partner will help me with diapers, meals, rest and whatever else. The man may think “she’s got this” after all she’s the mom.  I would just say that was probably the toughest part of it all.  My husband and I REALLY had a hard time adjusting, It gets easier the more you communicate.
5. Dealing with unsolicited advice….I don’t spend a whole bunch of time defending my choices or actions. I just don’t. My son was 18 months, all I heard everyday is that he needs to be done nursing. He is wasn’t ready.  Maxwell actually didn’t wean until he was a 26 months.  And that was that! Moms are wise! I will always instinctively do what’s right for Maxwell.
6. Mortality, I’ve never in my life wanted so badly to live, so badly to love, so badly to express myself.  Wanting to live just to protect another human being, dreaming of them grow up.  The thought of not being around for every single second is terrifying!  Every headache, every ache or pain makes you nuts or so it does me(I’m neurotic remember). Anyway the only way I have found to combat that is gratitude.  It seems to me that being grateful for every moment you get with your loved ones helps with that particular anxiety.
7. Stay at home mom/Working mom……… um we all fuckin Rock!! DO YOU.  All of our families are different and will require a different operation.  I’ve been on both sides, I stayed home with Max for two years, I went to work for a year or so also… both extremely difficult.  It was hard to have no social life. I loved being home with Max but it was isolating and running a home and trying to work from home was tough.  The hardest day of my life was dropping Max off at nursery school for the first time, My first day at my new job I cried in front of my new co-worker(she understood).  I missed him and he was only 25 months, we were both devastated.  Now I work from home but Max still goes to nursery school; I’m the one to drop him off and when my work is done I go get my kid!  He loves all his friends and is very social.
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My Trader Joe’s Beauty haul!!!!!

I don’t know about you, but when I think about buying beauty products, Trader Joe’s doesn’t even enter my mind. Imagine my surprise as I was looking for a toddler multi-vitamin(a story for another blog) when I see beauty products very similar to the products I spend a small fortune on at Nordstrom and Sephora for.

The question for me was obviously first about ingredients which seem to really check out in terms of what I’m used to seeing in beauty products. The second question was; at this price point could they actually work? So let’s get into it…………

 

The Blueberry & Acai facial scrub smelled like my smoothies(good sign actually) I hate chemical smelling products, so this was great. It’s fine, it exfoliates very well my skin felt soft. I think it’s a good deal.

I was actually in the market for a new oil, especially for the ends of my hair. That’s exactly what I used it for and it was perfection. The dropper allows you to use it sparingly, so you don’t have an obscene amount of oil on your hands… what you don’t need you can rub on your elbows.

My absolute favorite find was the Rose Water facial toner!!!!!!! I can’t say enough good things, once all my makeup was off I simply couldn’t wait to spray this generously on my face, it instantly restores moisture and relaxes my skin. The best part is the intoxicating smell of roses, I will be keeping this as a part of my routine for sure. Love it.

The Shea Butter & Coconut oil Hair mask was pretty good, I have really dry hair from being chemically processed but I can honestly say it does moisturize, but I probably won’t replace what I’m using now.

My second favorite find was the Rose Oil Ultra-Moisturizing Hand Cream. This will be another One I will continue to buy. Keep this by your nightstand you won’t be disappointed it gives the one I currently use a run for it’s money, and speaking of money it’s a fraction of the cost. It’s incredibly rich, the smell is amazing, and it’s not greasy.

The Rose facial oil is a part of my evening routine and honestly can’t tell a difference between the expensive one I’ve used from Sephora, so for that reason, I have to say only time will tell… but why pay more? My skin still feels very soft.

I have to say, all and all I’m very pleased with my purchases and if you are not committed to what you are currently using and you are looking for products that don’t break the bank I think you will be happy too. I do want to apologize for not putting the prices, I tried hard to find my receipt to report prices but I lost it. Considering what my normal products cost, I promise these are way less. I feel like nothing was over $10. It’s Trader Joe’s babes! I hope this helps.

XOXO

Tera Belle

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