Being a single mom of a 6-year-old boy(almost 7) is a beautiful yet demanding role. With the added responsibilities of making a living, and making a home. It’s crucial to prioritize self-care to maintain balance, energy, and overall well-being. I’m going to share some things that work for Max and me.
Set aside some “Mama Time”: Finding moments for yourself is essential. Set aside dedicated time each day to engage in activities that bring you joy and recharge your energy. Whether it’s early mornings before your little one wakes up or during nap time, use this time for self-care practices such as meditation, reading a book, taking a relaxing bath, or pursuing a hobby.
Get outside: Where I live in LA offers a diverse range of outdoor spaces to explore. Take advantage of nature’s healing power by incorporating regular walks or visits to local parks into your routine. Breathing in the fresh air, soaking up sunlight, and connecting with nature can boost your mood and provide a much-needed break from daily stressors.
Be tribal: Don’t hesitate to reach out for support when needed. Build a support network by connecting with other single moms in your community. Join local parenting groups or online communities where you can share experiences, seek advice, and offer support to one another. Having a support system can make a significant difference in your well-being.
Live simply: Recognize that you don’t have to do everything alone. Delegate age-appropriate tasks to your 6-year-old, such as tidying up toys or setting the table. Simplify your routines and home management by organizing and decluttering spaces, meal planning, and using time-saving strategies. By lightening your load, you create more room for self-care.
Go to bed: A good night’s sleep is essential for your physical and mental well-being. Establish a bedtime routine for yourself and your child to ensure restful nights. Create a calm and comfortable sleep environment, limit screen time before bed, and consider incorporating relaxation techniques such as reading or practicing gentle stretching.
Eat healthy-esque: Cooking homemade meals is an excellent way to prioritize your and your child’s health. Plan and prepare meals in advance, making use of batch cooking and freezer-friendly recipes. Focus on nutrient-dense foods that provide sustained energy and support overall well-being. Don’t forget to stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water throughout the day.
Practice Mindful mama-ing: Being present with your child is a form of self-care in itself. Engage in quality time together, where you actively listen, play, and create cherished memories. Embrace mindfulness by fully immersing yourself in the present moment with your child, letting go of distractions, and focusing on the joy of there for with them in this season, as you know time flies.
As a single mom, prioritizing self-care is vital for your well-being and the well-being of your child. By incorporating these self-care tips into your routine, you can nurture your physical, mental, and emotional health. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s an act of love and empowerment. Embrace the journey of self-care, and watch as it positively impacts both your life and the life of your own children.
A lot of people have many questions and won’t ask them which I really appreciate. It’s been a hard 7 months since the passing of my husband Clinton Robert Dunn.
I haven’t really had the desire to express myself verbally or in written form because quite honestly, as much as I have excepted it, I still, even in this moment find it so hard to believe. I mean there will be random times everyday where I stop what I’m doing and go “What the Fuck, this can’t be real life”. It is real. It is painful. The reality that our future together is over is an impossible pill to swallow. My son and I try to find peace through our routines and faith in God. My faith in God has only gotten stronger through this experience, he has seen us through some really tough moments and has revealed himself to me through the love of my family, my friends, and the compassion of strangers.
Clint loved life!! He loved me, he loved being a chef, but Maxwell was the love of his life. Being a father was something he wanted from the start. I’m so happy and blessed that we were able to make that a reality for him. I think that’s what hurts the most is that his journey was cut so short he will not be here to see Max turn 4 in two months. That breaks my fucking heart.
Someone recently asked me about how I’m handling grief, probably not very well, but I’m doing the best I possibly can. Between Motherhood and building my business’s and utter sadness, I have no problem falling asleep anymore. I’m exhausted, and whatever hope for the future I feel or have felt is being threatened by Covid 19. What a time. I had a few trips planned to be with family but Max and I are staying safe at home and it’s lonely.
Clint was love. He had love for everyone. He was open to adventure, he was incredibly brave, and handsome. He was an amazing chef that studied his craft faithfully, he worked at some of the most amazing restaurants in Los Angeles. Sometimes I felt like I was competing for his love with the chef life, but in the end he made it very clear he chose me. We had our whole lives in front of us. Maxwell always ask me where he was in our wedding pictures, I always tell him you lived in our heart at that time. Now daddy lives there.
I’m not sure if I will ever get over this, but God willing I will keep moving forward for Max and myself.