Celebrating Valentine’s Day as a Single Mama

As Valentine’s Day is tomorrow, the aisles of stores are filled with heart-shaped chocolates, red roses, and declarations of love. For many, this day is synonymous with romantic gestures and candlelit dinners. But what about us, the single moms navigating the world of parenting solo? How do we celebrate Valentine’s Day when we’re not part of a traditional couple? The answer lies in recognizing that love comes in many forms and that as single moms, we have plenty to celebrate.

Embracing Self-Love

As single moms, we often prioritize the needs of our children above our own. Valentine’s Day provides the perfect opportunity to turn the spotlight inward and practice some much-needed self-love. Take this day as a chance to pamper yourself—whether it’s indulging in a bubble bath, treating yourself to a massage, or simply curling up with a good book. Remember, you are deserving of love and care, and this day is all about celebrating you too.

Celebrating the Love of Family and Friends

While romantic love may not be on the cards for us right now, the love of family and friends is always present. Reach out to your loved ones and celebrate the bonds that tie you together. Plan a movie night with your kids, bake heart-shaped cookies together, or organize a virtual Galentine’s Day with your closest friends. Surrounding yourself with the people who lift you up is a beautiful way to celebrate the love that exists in your life.

Cookies with Max

Creating Cherished Memories

Valentine’s Day is not just about grand gestures—it’s about creating meaningful moments that will be cherished for years to come. Take this opportunity to create lasting memories with your children. Write love letters to each other, craft homemade valentines, or embark on a nature walk to appreciate the beauty of the world around you. These simple yet heartfelt activities will leave a lasting impression and remind you of the love that fills your home every day.

Max and I Make Valentines for each other

Finding Joy in the Little Things

As single moms, we understand the importance of finding joy in the little things. Whether it’s a spontaneous dance party in the living room, a laughter-filled game night, or a cozy cuddle session before bedtime, these small moments are what truly matter. This Valentine’s Day, take the time to revel in these simple pleasures and appreciate the love that surrounds you every single day.

As single moms, we may not have a traditional Valentine’s Day experience, but that doesn’t mean we can’t celebrate love in all its forms. Whether it’s through self-love, the love of family and friends, or the joy found in everyday moments, there are countless reasons to celebrate this special day. So, this Valentine’s Day, let’s embrace the love that surrounds us and remember that the greatest love of all begins with loving ourselves. Happy Valentine’s Day to all the incredible single moms out there—you are loved, you are valued, and you are enough.

Love,

Tera

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Balancing Act: Work-Life Harmony as a Single Mom


Being a single mom and entrepreneur comes with its unique set of challenges, but it’s entirely possible to achieve a fulfilling work-life balance. In this post, I’ll touch on juggling a small business, a school-age child, extracurricular activities like soccer and baseball, and maintaining an active social life filled with playdates.

Setting priorities and establishing a routine is going to be a major key, with multiple responsibilities on your plate, setting clear priorities is crucial. Determine the most important tasks and obligations for both your business and personal life. Create a daily and weekly schedule that includes dedicated time for work, quality time with your child, attending their activities, and nurturing your social life. Having a routine helps bring structure to your days and ensures you allocate time for each aspect of your life.

Leveraging technology and your flexibility working mostly from home provides flexibility, which is a valuable asset for a single-mom entrepreneur. Embrace technology to streamline your work processes. Utilize project management tools, online calendars, and communication platforms to stay organized and collaborate effectively with your customer and clients. Take advantage of remote work options to attend to your child’s activities and manage your business simultaneously. This particular tip works best for obviously those who work for themselves.

This next tip works best for those of you that have the ability to hire help. So if that’s not something you can afford, no worries but I had to add it, because it’s important to mention.

Recognize that you can’t do it all on your own. Delegate tasks that don’t require your direct attention, both in your business and personal life. Hire help for tasks like accounting, administrative work, or childcare, allowing you to focus on core business activities and quality time with your child. Remember, seeking support doesn’t signify weakness; it’s a wise move to maintain your work-life balance. Also try to remember time IS money.

Communicate and Collaborate, open and clear communication is key to managing your various commitments. Talk to your child about your work and explain the importance of balancing responsibilities. Engage with their school, coaches, and other parents to ensure you’re aware of schedule changes or any conflicts that may arise. Collaborate with other parents to share carpooling duties or alternate supervising playdates, enabling everyone to have a balanced schedule.

Prioritize Self-Care, taking care of yourself is essential in maintaining a healthy work-life balance. As a single mom, it’s easy to neglect self-care but remember that you need to be your best self to succeed in all aspects of your life. Find moments for relaxation, exercise, and hobbies that recharge you. Set aside time for self-reflection and personal growth. Remember, you deserve to thrive in both your personal and professional endeavors, I actually wrote about self-care a couple post ago, look it over for tips.

Bonus Tip…… whenever you can, you should enlist your little one’s to help with small tasks in your business, make them feel apart of it, also you spend time together. My son loves breaking down boxes and putting them together too. Obivously this is aplicalble if it your business and not a requirement in most cases. This one works for us.

As an entrepreneur with a school-age child engaged in sports and active social life, achieving work-life harmony requires intentional effort on my part. By setting priorities, establishing routines, leveraging technology, outsourcing, and communicating effectively, I can find the balance that allows me to succeed both in my business and personal life.

Remember, taking care of yourself is essential for long-term success and overall happiness. Embrace the journey, be adaptable, and cherish the precious moments with your child as your navigate your beautiful life.

Much Love,

Tera

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“Surviving and Thriving as a single mom: My Journey After Loss”

Becoming a single mom overnight is a life-altering experience, one that I never could have imagined. In October 2019, tragedy struck my life when I lost my husband in a devastating accident. Suddenly, I found myself navigating a world I was unprepared for, and the uncertainty of the future felt overwhelming. Our dreams of growing old together, sending our son off to college, and retiring in the south of France had vanished. My husband had been our provider, and I was faced with the daunting task of supporting my toddler and myself in Los Angeles.

In those early days, I was juggling various freelance gigs as a stylist and personal shopper, along with my reselling business. It was clear that these income sources wouldn’t be enough to make ends meet. Here, I want to share some valuable tips and insights from my journey as a widowed single mom, in the hope that they might help others who find themselves on a similar path.

Coping with the sudden loss of a spouse and becoming a single mom is an incredibly challenging and emotional journey. Here are four crucial steps to help you navigate this difficult transition:

  • Seek Emotional Support:
  1. Reach out to friends and family: Lean on your support network of friends and family. They can provide emotional comfort and practical assistance during this trying time.
  2. Consider grief counseling or therapy: Professional support can be immensely beneficial in helping you process your grief, manage the emotional rollercoaster, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.
  • Figuring out where you stand financially:
  1. Assess your financial situation: Take stock of your income, expenses, debts, and savings. Understanding your financial standing is essential for making informed decisions.
  2. Create a budget: Develop a budget that reflects your current financial reality. This will help you allocate resources wisely and plan for both short-term and long-term financial stability.
  3. Explore financial resources: Investigate any potential financial resources available to you, such as life insurance, survivor’s benefits, or other financial assistance programs.
  4. Consider seeking professional advice: Consult a financial advisor or planner to help you create a financial roadmap for the future. They can assist with investment strategies, retirement planning, and debt management. By the way, I know all of this already sounds overwhelming, so take your time….. this is not going to happen right away none of what I mention here.
  • Legal and Administrative Matters:
  1. Review and update legal documents: Ensure that your spouse’s will, insurance policies, and other legal documents are in order. If you don’t have a will, consider creating one to outline your wishes and designate a guardian for your child.
  2. Update ownership and beneficiaries: Update the ownership of joint assets, bank accounts, and beneficiary designations on accounts, retirement plans, and insurance policies to reflect your new circumstances.
  3. Contact relevant authorities and organizations: Notify government agencies, financial institutions, and other organizations of your spouse’s passing to prevent any complications or identity theft.
  • Self-Care and Prioritize Well-being:
  1. Prioritize self-care: Caring for yourself is vital during this challenging time. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones.
  2. Seek childcare support: If you have children, consider enlisting the help of family members, friends, or a trusted babysitter to ensure you have time for self-care.
  3. Connect with support groups: Join support groups for widows and single parents. Sharing experiences and insights with others who have gone through similar challenges can provide valuable guidance and emotional support.

Remember that healing and adjusting to this new chapter in your life take time. Be patient with yourself, and don’t hesitate to seek professional help or assistance when needed. Surround yourself with a support network that understands your journey, and know that with time, you can find a path to resilience and well-being as a single mom.

Stabilizing your situation is the first crucial step when transitioning into single motherhood. This process will look different for each person, depending on the circumstances they find themselves in. In my case, it seemed like I might have to move back in with my parents or even consider living with my in-laws to make ends meet.

The very first thing I did was turn to prayer. I asked God to guide my steps and provide the strength and wisdom I needed to navigate this challenging journey. While it was undoubtedly a trying time, I soon realized that I was not alone.

I was incredibly fortunate to have a supportive community of fellow moms in my town. They rallied around me and raised funds, recognizing the urgency of my situation. Since my husband hadn’t left us with life insurance, these contributions made an enormous difference. They allowed me to pay my rent for six months, which meant I could redirect the money I was earning from my various jobs towards building a more stable financial foundation.

The kindness and generosity of these moms demonstrated the power of community and reminded me that, even in the darkest of times, people are willing to help and support you. This act of kindness gave me the breathing room I needed to take the first steps toward creating a more secure future for my son and myself.

Transitioning into single motherhood was undoubtedly one of the most challenging experiences of my life. However, with faith, community support, and a determination to stabilize our situation, I began to see a glimmer of hope on the horizon. In the subsequent blog posts, I’ll share more insights and tips on how I navigated this journey, from financial planning to self-care and everything in between. Ask me anything. I’ll go into more detail.

Remember, if you’re a single mom facing similar challenges, you’re not alone, and there is hope. Stay tuned for more of my story and the lessons I’ve learned along the way.

With Love,

Tera

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Single mama and self-care

Being a single mom of a 6-year-old boy(almost 7) is a beautiful yet demanding role. With the added responsibilities of making a living, and making a home. It’s crucial to prioritize self-care to maintain balance, energy, and overall well-being. I’m going to share some things that work for Max and me.

  1. Set aside some “Mama Time”:
    Finding moments for yourself is essential. Set aside dedicated time each day to engage in activities that bring you joy and recharge your energy. Whether it’s early mornings before your little one wakes up or during nap time, use this time for self-care practices such as meditation, reading a book, taking a relaxing bath, or pursuing a hobby.
  2. Get outside:
    Where I live in LA offers a diverse range of outdoor spaces to explore. Take advantage of nature’s healing power by incorporating regular walks or visits to local parks into your routine. Breathing in the fresh air, soaking up sunlight, and connecting with nature can boost your mood and provide a much-needed break from daily stressors.
  3. Be tribal:
    Don’t hesitate to reach out for support when needed. Build a support network by connecting with other single moms in your community. Join local parenting groups or online communities where you can share experiences, seek advice, and offer support to one another. Having a support system can make a significant difference in your well-being.
  4. Live simply:
    Recognize that you don’t have to do everything alone. Delegate age-appropriate tasks to your 6-year-old, such as tidying up toys or setting the table. Simplify your routines and home management by organizing and decluttering spaces, meal planning, and using time-saving strategies. By lightening your load, you create more room for self-care.
  5. Go to bed:
    A good night’s sleep is essential for your physical and mental well-being. Establish a bedtime routine for yourself and your child to ensure restful nights. Create a calm and comfortable sleep environment, limit screen time before bed, and consider incorporating relaxation techniques such as reading or practicing gentle stretching.
  6. Eat healthy-esque:
    Cooking homemade meals is an excellent way to prioritize your and your child’s health. Plan and prepare meals in advance, making use of batch cooking and freezer-friendly recipes. Focus on nutrient-dense foods that provide sustained energy and support overall well-being. Don’t forget to stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water throughout the day.
  7. Practice Mindful mama-ing:
    Being present with your child is a form of self-care in itself. Engage in quality time together, where you actively listen, play, and create cherished memories. Embrace mindfulness by fully immersing yourself in the present moment with your child, letting go of distractions, and focusing on the joy of there for with them in this season, as you know time flies.


As a single mom, prioritizing self-care is vital for your well-being and the well-being of your child. By incorporating these self-care tips into your routine, you can nurture your physical, mental, and emotional health. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s an act of love and empowerment. Embrace the journey of self-care, and watch as it positively impacts both your life and the life of your own children.

Love ya,

Tera

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Where I left you

The past three years have been a rollercoaster of emotions and challenges for me. From the devastating loss of my husband followed by the Covid lockdown to navigating the complexities of single motherhood while being a small business owner, life has thrown its share of obstacles my way. Amidst it all, finding the time and strength to return to blogging has been a struggle. But here I am, ready to reconnect with you, my readers, and share the updates on my life.

My son and I have embarked on a long journey of heart healing. Therapy has played a crucial role in our lives, providing a safe space for both of us to express and process our emotions surrounding our loss. Our therapist has been a true blessing, offering guidance and support. It warms my heart to see my son opening up in ways he couldn’t before, and witnessing his growth and resilience fills me with pride. Together, we are navigating this sometimes lonely journey of motherhood, one step at a time.

Incredible as it may seem, my son, Maxwell, has completed first grade and is now ready to embark on his second-grade adventure. The passing of time brings a mix of emotions, but seeing him grow and thrive fills me with hope and joy. Witnessing his enthusiasm for learning and the way he embraces new experiences is a constant reminder of the resilience of children.

While balancing the demands of motherhood and my role as the owner of Mama Vibes Coffee and Mama Drip, I felt a calling to delve into the realm of healing. I have recently become a certified Reiki practitioner and established my own practice called Lemon and Lavender Healing. Healing has become an integral part of my life, and responding to this calling to become a healer myself feels like a natural progression. By combining my passion for nurturing others and the transformative power of Reiki, I am embarking on a new chapter filled with opportunities to support and uplift others.

As I reflect on the challenges, growth, and exciting developments in my life, I am grateful for the unwavering support of my readers and the strength I have found within myself. The journey may be arduous at times, but with each step, I am reminded of the power of healing, resilience, and the capacity for personal and professional growth. Thank you for being a part of my journey, and I look forward to sharing more with you as we navigate life’s twists and turns together.

I love you so much,

Tera

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Smoothie bowl recipe

So Many people have enjoyed pictures of my smoothie bowls on my Instagram, so here is the recipe.

There are a lot things I make well, and there are things I stand in the kitchen with a drink and watch.  Anyway together we make a great team!!

Ingredients are as follows:

1 cup mangoes,

2 bananas,

2 cups strawberries,

1 handful spinach,

4 scoops super Greens

1 cup water to start add more as needed,

1 acai packet

You then blend these things together in a blender with a lot of power.(we love the Nutribullet)

Toppings include:

fresh fruit (I love strawberries, blueberries, and blackberries)

sliced almonds

chia seeds

Pepita aka pumpkin seeds

dark chocolate chips

coconut shavings

granola can also be used but I don’t like it in mine.

This should be enough for two people and the leftover can be given to a baby of 6 months or older without toppings or with the soft ones if you’d like. (my toddler loves these)

if you are watching your calories it’s about 560 per serving of 2

~fats 26 grams

~carbs 70 grams

~protein 18 grams

Go nuts on the toppings they’re the best part!!  Design as you wish and enjoy!

Try it and let me know what you think!

xoxo,

Tera Dunn

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My skin care routine

Despite just having a baby and hormones all over the place I have gotten compliments on my skin.  I thought about it and it’s great to know that my skin care regiment pays off.

1. First I wash my face and neck a with cleansing but NOT drying cleanser.
I use La Mer’s Cleansing Foam it’s super creamy with a polishing element.  It leaves my face feeling super clean but not dried out.
Now, for 4.2 fl. oz. at $90 dollars it might not be your jam, but do not fret because there’s an alternative cleanser called Checks and Balances made by Origins, to me has the same consistency and feeling on the face and at 5 fl. oz it’s only $22.  Basically, this is a splurge or steal situation but this is the only product on this list that is interchangeable in my opinion.

2. Next, about 3 times a week I exfoliate. I really like Never A Dull Moment skin brightening polisher with fruit extracts by Origins.  The way this works is, you spread it over your face, let it sit for a few minutes so the fruit extracts can work on the face, then you gently massage it a circular motion,  and rinse with warm water.

3. The next step I use the Treatment lotion from La Mer, it helps with tone and texture and allows the next steps of your regiment to work so much better. A great way to make this product last is to pour a little on your finger tips as opposed to using a cotton ball, a cotton ball will soak up more than you need.

4. SERUMS are really important!!  Fact, 80% of our sun damage happens before the age of 18.  Serums are great for reversing the “look” of aging.  There are so many amazing serums out there, right now I’m into the Lifting contour serum from La Mer because it firms the skin, making the face look slimmer.

5. Then there is an eye cream.  The Eye Concentrate from La Mer is amazing for dark circles, I feel like I was born with dark circles.  Concealer is fine but being able to leave the house with no make-up and feel pretty still is priceless.

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6. Lastly, there is the moisturizer, I use Creme de la Mer.  This is actually the first thing I ever used from this from this line, I was hooked.  What I like is how moisture rich it is, I was pregnant during the winter; truly a lifesaver.  The only thing about this moisturizer is you must rub it between your fingers first, then pat it into your skin.

*Bonus products….  I stumbled upon this retinol deep wrinkle filler from CVS drug store www.cvs.com  This is a total steal because it’s like botox in a tube.  I use it after the treatment lotion by dabbing a little on my forehead.  The reason I didn’t include it on top was because of the fact you shouldn’t use retinal when you are pregnant so I didn’t.  I have since begun using it again.

Also, I do not work for La Mer.  I’ve used these products for about 3 or 4 years and they work for me.  To learn more go to http://www.cremedelamer.com

or http://www.origins.com

 

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