I’ll come back to you Sadness

I explained to my therapist that It felt like I was being chased by sadness, it felt to me like every time I would sit down to rest or, when I would do anything that didn’t require actual thought is when it crept up from behind. I would find the busier I was, the less it could catch up to me, but I had to sleep, Sadness would be waiting for me in my bed, and it would be handing me my towel as I got out of the shower. Sadness was never going to leave me alone until I dealt with it.

I told my therapist that I didn’t have time to deal with this, I had a son to raise, a business to grow, and a full life I wanted to live. She told me to make time or at the very least, come back to it. She changed my life with that simple truth.

This may sound weird but if sadness started creeping in, at a moment that felt inconvenient, I would say “Hello Sadness, I understand you need me to acknowledge something in this moment and I am grateful, let’s save this for bedtime so that my son can have a fun day”. Now this didn’t always work but it did for the most part. Putting a little sob session on the calendar works for me because of how my brain is wired. I’m not suggesting that to you unless you know the source of your pain. Mine was heartbreak. I mention this because there is sadness and then there is depression, seeing a professional would help you to discern the difference because this does affect your motherhood journey.

I try to be mindful that there is a balance between allowing Max to see emotion so he can learn normalcy around it and not becoming a basket case to the point where he doesn’t feel safe or protected by an emotionally regulated adult. That’s very important to me.

Becoming a single mother in the way I did, was not how I saw this thing going, being so lonely wasn’t how I expected to feel at my age. But when grief and heartbreak enter the picture, all bets are off. And even with my natural always sunny disposition, life got super sad.

The photo above was of me on my birthday, Maxwell finished singing me happy birthday, and I cried myself to sleep after this.

There are so many other things to feel your way through as a single mom, here are a few things I’ve learned about moving through them with grace.

The first step in navigating sadness is to acknowledge and honor your emotions. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or overwhelmed. Allow yourself the space and time(even if you have to come back to it) to grieve the loss of your relationship and the life you envisioned. Remember, your emotions are valid, and it’s important to permit yourself to feel them fully.

It’s also crucial to lean on your support network, people who can offer understanding, empathy, and encouragement. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when needed, especially when all you need is simply someone to listen. I’ve learned the hard way that my life would have been easier if I had asked for help when I needed it. For me, it’s literally a trauma response to not ask for help. That’s a whole notha blog post.

It’s easy to neglect your own needs while focusing on the well-being of your child, or children. However, self-care is essential for your physical, emotional, and mental health. Make time for activities that nourish your soul, whether it’s taking a bubble bath, going for a walk in nature, or practicing mindfulness meditation. Remember, by taking care of yourself, you’ll be better equipped to show up to your emotions with kindness.

I don’t know about you but maintaining a sense of structure provides stability and comfort for me and Max. During times of upheaval establishing a daily schedule that includes regular mealtimes, bedtime routines, and activities helps with the anxiety that likes to antagonize my sadness. Consistency and predictability can help alleviate stress and create a sense of security for you and your child’s emotional state.

While it’s natural to dwell on the past and lament the things you cannot change, try to focus on what you can control in the present moment. Set small, achievable goals for yourself and your kids, whether it’s finishing a new book, enrolling your kid in extracurricular activities, or exploring new hobbies together. It’s hard to be sad watching your little one playing baseball, or soccer, or spending a whole weekend dedicated to watching all the Marvel films in order.

Navigating single motherhood through the lens of sadness is undoubtedly a challenging journey, but it’s also an opportunity for growth, healing, and transformation. By acknowledging your emotions, seeking support, prioritizing self-care, creating a routine, focusing on what you can control, and practicing gratitude, you can find strength and resilience amid adversity. Remember, you are not alone, and with time and perseverance, you will emerge from this season of sadness stronger, wiser, and more empowered than ever before.

Also, there is no shame in getting professional help. So during my very fruitful spiritual journey, I thought I was fine, My now therapist was working with my son and us as a family and she pulled me aside to ask me if I’d like to see her, just me. I told her I was ok, but she looked at me and told me she saw sadness in my eyes and that it’s ok to need someone to talk to. So I have been. I love her, she’s the best thing that’s happened to Max and me on our journey to wholeness.

My wish for you all who have read this is that you have access to yourselves in ways you never allowed before. I love you.

xoxo Tera

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Celebrating Valentine’s Day as a Single Mama

As Valentine’s Day is tomorrow, the aisles of stores are filled with heart-shaped chocolates, red roses, and declarations of love. For many, this day is synonymous with romantic gestures and candlelit dinners. But what about us, the single moms navigating the world of parenting solo? How do we celebrate Valentine’s Day when we’re not part of a traditional couple? The answer lies in recognizing that love comes in many forms and that as single moms, we have plenty to celebrate.

Embracing Self-Love

As single moms, we often prioritize the needs of our children above our own. Valentine’s Day provides the perfect opportunity to turn the spotlight inward and practice some much-needed self-love. Take this day as a chance to pamper yourself—whether it’s indulging in a bubble bath, treating yourself to a massage, or simply curling up with a good book. Remember, you are deserving of love and care, and this day is all about celebrating you too.

Celebrating the Love of Family and Friends

While romantic love may not be on the cards for us right now, the love of family and friends is always present. Reach out to your loved ones and celebrate the bonds that tie you together. Plan a movie night with your kids, bake heart-shaped cookies together, or organize a virtual Galentine’s Day with your closest friends. Surrounding yourself with the people who lift you up is a beautiful way to celebrate the love that exists in your life.

Cookies with Max

Creating Cherished Memories

Valentine’s Day is not just about grand gestures—it’s about creating meaningful moments that will be cherished for years to come. Take this opportunity to create lasting memories with your children. Write love letters to each other, craft homemade valentines, or embark on a nature walk to appreciate the beauty of the world around you. These simple yet heartfelt activities will leave a lasting impression and remind you of the love that fills your home every day.

Max and I Make Valentines for each other

Finding Joy in the Little Things

As single moms, we understand the importance of finding joy in the little things. Whether it’s a spontaneous dance party in the living room, a laughter-filled game night, or a cozy cuddle session before bedtime, these small moments are what truly matter. This Valentine’s Day, take the time to revel in these simple pleasures and appreciate the love that surrounds you every single day.

As single moms, we may not have a traditional Valentine’s Day experience, but that doesn’t mean we can’t celebrate love in all its forms. Whether it’s through self-love, the love of family and friends, or the joy found in everyday moments, there are countless reasons to celebrate this special day. So, this Valentine’s Day, let’s embrace the love that surrounds us and remember that the greatest love of all begins with loving ourselves. Happy Valentine’s Day to all the incredible single moms out there—you are loved, you are valued, and you are enough.



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Tips For Flying With Small Children

Traveling with children can be a shit show, especially if your child has sensory issues like Max. However, flying with any kid can present its challenges. With a bit of preparation and a positive attitude, you can ensure a smooth and somewhat enjoyable journey. Here are some ideas to make your airplane adventure with children stress-free and memorable:

1. Plan for Comfort:

Before your travel day, do some research about the airline’s policies regarding child passengers. Some airlines offer amenities like kid-friendly entertainment. ALWAYS!!! reserve your seats in advance to secure seating together as a family. If possible, opt for direct flights to minimize travel time and the hassle of layovers.

2. Pack Wisely:

Pack a well-organized carry-on bag with essentials such as diapers, wipes, snacks, and a change of clothes for both your child and yourself. Don’t forget comfort items like blankets, pacifiers, or stuffed animals that can provide a sense of security during the flight. Consider packing a small surprise toy or activity to keep your child engaged.

3. Entertainment is Key:

Long flights can become tedious for kids, so be prepared with a variety of entertainment options. Load a tablet or smartphone with age-appropriate games, movies, and TV shows. Bring coloring books, puzzles, or storybooks to keep them engaged offline. Headphones that fit comfortably are a must for kids who want to watch in-flight entertainment.

4. Snacks and Hydration:

Airplane food may not always align with your child’s preferences, so pack a mix of their favorite snacks. Opt for healthy options like fruits, granola bars, and crackers to keep their energy up. Don’t forget a refillable water bottle to stay hydrated throughout the flight.

5. Timing is Everything:

Consider booking flights that align with your child’s natural sleep schedule. If possible, schedule flights during nap times or bedtime, so your child can catch some Zs during the journey. This will not only make the flight more pleasant for them but also give you a chance to relax.

6. Safety First:

Make sure to comply with airline safety regulations, especially regarding child safety seats. If your child is under a certain age or weight, they may require a car seat approved for air travel. Check with the airline well in advance to ensure you have the correct information.

7. Be Patient and Positive:

Children can get restless during flights, especially on long journeys. Stay patient, and maintain a positive attitude. Bring along a sense of humor and flexibility – sometimes things may not go as planned, but a calm and upbeat demeanor will help keep stress levels low. Max and I have had so many delays over the years, I can’t stress enough that your attitude is a mirror for theirs.

8. Engage Their Curiosity:

Turn the flight into a learning experience by pointing out landmarks, explaining the mechanics of flying, and sharing interesting facts about the destination. Engaging your child’s curiosity can turn the flight into an educational adventure.

9. Explore the Airport:

Some airports offer play areas or kid-friendly spaces, and some offer museum-type exhibits. If you have a layover, use this time to explore these areas, allowing your child to burn off energy before the next flight.

10. Celebrate Milestones:

Once you’ve completed the flight, celebrate the accomplishment with your child. Whether it’s their first flight, an international journey, or simply a new adventure, acknowledging their achievements can make the experience more memorable.

Remember, every child is unique, so adapt these tips to suit your child’s age, preferences, and needs. By approaching your journey with a sense of adventure, patience, and preparation, you can create positive memories and instill a love for travel in your children that will last a lifetime.

Bon voyage!


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How I approach anti-aging in my skincare routine

As we get older, taking care of our skin becomes increasingly important, and finding the right anti-aging facial products can make all the difference. I know that I’ve posted about my skincare routine before in a post, but I’ve incorporated a few new things. I’ll do a new post going into detail but for now, we’ll explore anti-aging products that I love. Let’s dive in shall we?

Retinol has long been hailed as a potent ingredient for combating the signs of aging. Look for products that contain a stable form of retinol, such as retinol esters or retinyl palmitate, as they are less likely to cause irritation. Notable products include retinol serums, night creams, and targeted treatments that promote cell turnover, reduce wrinkles, and improve overall skin texture. I personally use a tretinoin prescribed by a dermatologist. I can’t emphasize enough that this journey should include help from a professional if you are unsure of how to go about this part of your routine.

Hyaluronic acid is a hydrating powerhouse that plumps the skin and diminishes the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. Seek out facial serums, moisturizers, and masks that feature hyaluronic acid as a key ingredient. These products help retain moisture, leaving your skin smoother, firmer, and more youthful-looking. I use this in conjunction with the Nuface microcurrent, I’ll insert a picture. also, I do a video on my routine on youtube on how I use it exactly. I’ll keep you posted when it’s up.

Hyaluronic acid with the Nuface device

Vitamin C is a powerful antioxidant that brightens the skin, evens out skin tone, and reduces the appearance of age spots. Look for facial serums or creams containing stable forms of vitamin C, such as ascorbic acid. These formulations can improve collagen production, protect against environmental damage, and promote a more radiant complexion. The one I use I got at Target and I noticed a difference in a month, I’ll insert a picture below.

I love this Loreal vitamin C

Protecting your skin from harmful UV rays is essential in any anti-aging regimen. Opt for broad-spectrum sunscreens with SPF 40 or higher, as they shield your skin from both UVA and UVB rays. Look for lightweight formulas that won’t clog pores and can be worn comfortably alone or under makeup. I’m currently using the Supergoop, feels like a primer, super silky.

Nighttime is the perfect opportunity for your skin to rejuvenate and repair itself. Consider using multi-purpose night creams that combine the benefits of various anti-aging ingredients, such as retinol, peptides, hyaluronic acid, and antioxidants. These creams work while you sleep, maximizing their effectiveness and leaving you with plumper, smoother skin in the morning. It’s ok if you have a basic moisturizer at night if you’ve already incorporated some of the ingredients listed in a serum.

Investing in high-quality anti-aging facial products is a worthwhile endeavor for any woman seeking to maintain youthful and radiant skin. From retinol-based products to hyaluronic acid formulations, vitamin C boosters, peptide-infused skincare, sunscreen, and multi-purpose night creams, the choices are endless.

Remember to stay hydrated! All the things you do topically won’t matter if you don’t drink enough water. That’s just my opinion, I’m not a doctor. Another thing to consider is that consistency is key when it comes to skincare, so establish a routine that works for you and enjoy the journey towards healthy, age-defying skin.

Note: It’s important to consult with a dermatologist or skincare professional before introducing new products into your routine, especially if you have sensitive skin or any pre-existing skin conditions.

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Balancing Act: Work-Life Harmony as a Single Mom

Being a single mom and entrepreneur comes with its unique set of challenges, but it’s entirely possible to achieve a fulfilling work-life balance. In this post, I’ll touch on juggling a small business, a school-age child, extracurricular activities like soccer and baseball, and maintaining an active social life filled with playdates.

Setting priorities and establishing a routine is going to be a major key, with multiple responsibilities on your plate, setting clear priorities is crucial. Determine the most important tasks and obligations for both your business and personal life. Create a daily and weekly schedule that includes dedicated time for work, quality time with your child, attending their activities, and nurturing your social life. Having a routine helps bring structure to your days and ensures you allocate time for each aspect of your life.

Leveraging technology and your flexibility working mostly from home provides flexibility, which is a valuable asset for a single-mom entrepreneur. Embrace technology to streamline your work processes. Utilize project management tools, online calendars, and communication platforms to stay organized and collaborate effectively with your customer and clients. Take advantage of remote work options to attend to your child’s activities and manage your business simultaneously. This particular tip works best for obviously those who work for themselves.

This next tip works best for those of you that have the ability to hire help. So if that’s not something you can afford, no worries but I had to add it, because it’s important to mention.

Recognize that you can’t do it all on your own. Delegate tasks that don’t require your direct attention, both in your business and personal life. Hire help for tasks like accounting, administrative work, or childcare, allowing you to focus on core business activities and quality time with your child. Remember, seeking support doesn’t signify weakness; it’s a wise move to maintain your work-life balance. Also try to remember time IS money.

Communicate and Collaborate, open and clear communication is key to managing your various commitments. Talk to your child about your work and explain the importance of balancing responsibilities. Engage with their school, coaches, and other parents to ensure you’re aware of schedule changes or any conflicts that may arise. Collaborate with other parents to share carpooling duties or alternate supervising playdates, enabling everyone to have a balanced schedule.

Prioritize Self-Care, taking care of yourself is essential in maintaining a healthy work-life balance. As a single mom, it’s easy to neglect self-care but remember that you need to be your best self to succeed in all aspects of your life. Find moments for relaxation, exercise, and hobbies that recharge you. Set aside time for self-reflection and personal growth. Remember, you deserve to thrive in both your personal and professional endeavors, I actually wrote about self-care a couple post ago, look it over for tips.

Bonus Tip…… whenever you can, you should enlist your little one’s to help with small tasks in your business, make them feel apart of it, also you spend time together. My son loves breaking down boxes and putting them together too. Obivously this is aplicalble if it your business and not a requirement in most cases. This one works for us.

As an entrepreneur with a school-age child engaged in sports and active social life, achieving work-life harmony requires intentional effort on my part. By setting priorities, establishing routines, leveraging technology, outsourcing, and communicating effectively, I can find the balance that allows me to succeed both in my business and personal life.

Remember, taking care of yourself is essential for long-term success and overall happiness. Embrace the journey, be adaptable, and cherish the precious moments with your child as your navigate your beautiful life.

Much Love,


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“Surviving and Thriving as a single mom: My Journey After Loss”

Becoming a single mom overnight is a life-altering experience, one that I never could have imagined. In October 2019, tragedy struck my life when I lost my husband in a devastating accident. Suddenly, I found myself navigating a world I was unprepared for, and the uncertainty of the future felt overwhelming. Our dreams of growing old together, sending our son off to college, and retiring in the south of France had vanished. My husband had been our provider, and I was faced with the daunting task of supporting my toddler and myself in Los Angeles.

In those early days, I was juggling various freelance gigs as a stylist and personal shopper, along with my reselling business. It was clear that these income sources wouldn’t be enough to make ends meet. Here, I want to share some valuable tips and insights from my journey as a widowed single mom, in the hope that they might help others who find themselves on a similar path.

Coping with the sudden loss of a spouse and becoming a single mom is an incredibly challenging and emotional journey. Here are four crucial steps to help you navigate this difficult transition:

  • Seek Emotional Support:
  1. Reach out to friends and family: Lean on your support network of friends and family. They can provide emotional comfort and practical assistance during this trying time.
  2. Consider grief counseling or therapy: Professional support can be immensely beneficial in helping you process your grief, manage the emotional rollercoaster, and develop healthy coping mechanisms.
  • Figuring out where you stand financially:
  1. Assess your financial situation: Take stock of your income, expenses, debts, and savings. Understanding your financial standing is essential for making informed decisions.
  2. Create a budget: Develop a budget that reflects your current financial reality. This will help you allocate resources wisely and plan for both short-term and long-term financial stability.
  3. Explore financial resources: Investigate any potential financial resources available to you, such as life insurance, survivor’s benefits, or other financial assistance programs.
  4. Consider seeking professional advice: Consult a financial advisor or planner to help you create a financial roadmap for the future. They can assist with investment strategies, retirement planning, and debt management. By the way, I know all of this already sounds overwhelming, so take your time….. this is not going to happen right away none of what I mention here.
  • Legal and Administrative Matters:
  1. Review and update legal documents: Ensure that your spouse’s will, insurance policies, and other legal documents are in order. If you don’t have a will, consider creating one to outline your wishes and designate a guardian for your child.
  2. Update ownership and beneficiaries: Update the ownership of joint assets, bank accounts, and beneficiary designations on accounts, retirement plans, and insurance policies to reflect your new circumstances.
  3. Contact relevant authorities and organizations: Notify government agencies, financial institutions, and other organizations of your spouse’s passing to prevent any complications or identity theft.
  • Self-Care and Prioritize Well-being:
  1. Prioritize self-care: Caring for yourself is vital during this challenging time. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones.
  2. Seek childcare support: If you have children, consider enlisting the help of family members, friends, or a trusted babysitter to ensure you have time for self-care.
  3. Connect with support groups: Join support groups for widows and single parents. Sharing experiences and insights with others who have gone through similar challenges can provide valuable guidance and emotional support.

Remember that healing and adjusting to this new chapter in your life take time. Be patient with yourself, and don’t hesitate to seek professional help or assistance when needed. Surround yourself with a support network that understands your journey, and know that with time, you can find a path to resilience and well-being as a single mom.

Stabilizing your situation is the first crucial step when transitioning into single motherhood. This process will look different for each person, depending on the circumstances they find themselves in. In my case, it seemed like I might have to move back in with my parents or even consider living with my in-laws to make ends meet.

The very first thing I did was turn to prayer. I asked God to guide my steps and provide the strength and wisdom I needed to navigate this challenging journey. While it was undoubtedly a trying time, I soon realized that I was not alone.

I was incredibly fortunate to have a supportive community of fellow moms in my town. They rallied around me and raised funds, recognizing the urgency of my situation. Since my husband hadn’t left us with life insurance, these contributions made an enormous difference. They allowed me to pay my rent for six months, which meant I could redirect the money I was earning from my various jobs towards building a more stable financial foundation.

The kindness and generosity of these moms demonstrated the power of community and reminded me that, even in the darkest of times, people are willing to help and support you. This act of kindness gave me the breathing room I needed to take the first steps toward creating a more secure future for my son and myself.

Transitioning into single motherhood was undoubtedly one of the most challenging experiences of my life. However, with faith, community support, and a determination to stabilize our situation, I began to see a glimmer of hope on the horizon. In the subsequent blog posts, I’ll share more insights and tips on how I navigated this journey, from financial planning to self-care and everything in between. Ask me anything. I’ll go into more detail.

Remember, if you’re a single mom facing similar challenges, you’re not alone, and there is hope. Stay tuned for more of my story and the lessons I’ve learned along the way.

With Love,


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Fun Summer Activities to Enjoy with Your Kids in LA

Are you looking for ways to keep your kids entertained and create unforgettable memories this summer? Look no further than the vibrant city of Los Angeles! From thrilling adventures to educational experiences, LA offers so many activities that both you and your kids will love. Get ready for an action-packed summer with these 7 cool things to do:

1. Coming up first and my favorite, Universal Studios Hollywood. Max and I have already been here twice in this last year. Your kids will never forget walking through movie set-ups. We were there a month ago and the Fast and the Furious Cars were on display. There are also pretty cool rides for all ages, even a place to take babies. Your kids can meet beloved characters from Harry Potter and the Minions, and be amazed by live shows and interactive experiences.

Max at Harry Potter World in Universal Studios Hollywood

2. Griffith Observatory is pretty cool, get a taste of the cosmos, lol. Your kiddos can marvel at the wonders of the universe. Witness breathtaking views of the city, explore interactive exhibits, and gaze at the stars through powerful telescopes.

3. Natural History Museum is super awesome, a safe place to encourage your kids’ curiosity and explore the wonders of science and history. You can see dinosaur fossils, marvel at gemstones, and learn about the rich cultural heritage of California.

4. I really like Malibu but Max loves the Santa Monica Pier, kids can experience the magic of a classic seaside amusement park. There is actually a lot to see and even more to do, and don’t go on a budget because there’s also a lot they will beg you to buy. Also if you get tired or get sensory overload, you can walk over to the beach and chill.

5. Escape the hustle and bustle of the city and head to Griffith Park for a little picnic, it’s one of the largest urban parks in North America. Some people like to hike scenic trails(I don’t care for hiking) but your kids can enjoy the playgrounds and pony rides.

6. Cool Off at the Los Angeles Zoo, and beat the summer heat. Watch as your kids’ faces light up with excitement as they encounter exotic animals from around the world, including elephants and giraffes. Honestly, I could live without the zoo but Max thinks it’s Magical.

7. Engage your kids in interactive learning experiences at the Kidspace Children’s Museum in Pasadena. With hands-on exhibits, outdoor play areas, and educational programs, this museum offers endless opportunities for fun and discovery.

Also, be sure to check the websites or call ahead for updated information on operating hours and safety protocols.

Make this summer a memorable one by trying out these incredible activities in the sunny city of Los Angeles! Whether it’s exploring theme parks, immersing in nature, or engaging in educational experiences, there’s something for every family to enjoy. Let the adventures begin! 🌞

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Single mama and self-care

Being a single mom of a 6-year-old boy(almost 7) is a beautiful yet demanding role. With the added responsibilities of making a living, and making a home. It’s crucial to prioritize self-care to maintain balance, energy, and overall well-being. I’m going to share some things that work for Max and me.

  1. Set aside some “Mama Time”:
    Finding moments for yourself is essential. Set aside dedicated time each day to engage in activities that bring you joy and recharge your energy. Whether it’s early mornings before your little one wakes up or during nap time, use this time for self-care practices such as meditation, reading a book, taking a relaxing bath, or pursuing a hobby.
  2. Get outside:
    Where I live in LA offers a diverse range of outdoor spaces to explore. Take advantage of nature’s healing power by incorporating regular walks or visits to local parks into your routine. Breathing in the fresh air, soaking up sunlight, and connecting with nature can boost your mood and provide a much-needed break from daily stressors.
  3. Be tribal:
    Don’t hesitate to reach out for support when needed. Build a support network by connecting with other single moms in your community. Join local parenting groups or online communities where you can share experiences, seek advice, and offer support to one another. Having a support system can make a significant difference in your well-being.
  4. Live simply:
    Recognize that you don’t have to do everything alone. Delegate age-appropriate tasks to your 6-year-old, such as tidying up toys or setting the table. Simplify your routines and home management by organizing and decluttering spaces, meal planning, and using time-saving strategies. By lightening your load, you create more room for self-care.
  5. Go to bed:
    A good night’s sleep is essential for your physical and mental well-being. Establish a bedtime routine for yourself and your child to ensure restful nights. Create a calm and comfortable sleep environment, limit screen time before bed, and consider incorporating relaxation techniques such as reading or practicing gentle stretching.
  6. Eat healthy-esque:
    Cooking homemade meals is an excellent way to prioritize your and your child’s health. Plan and prepare meals in advance, making use of batch cooking and freezer-friendly recipes. Focus on nutrient-dense foods that provide sustained energy and support overall well-being. Don’t forget to stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water throughout the day.
  7. Practice Mindful mama-ing:
    Being present with your child is a form of self-care in itself. Engage in quality time together, where you actively listen, play, and create cherished memories. Embrace mindfulness by fully immersing yourself in the present moment with your child, letting go of distractions, and focusing on the joy of there for with them in this season, as you know time flies.

As a single mom, prioritizing self-care is vital for your well-being and the well-being of your child. By incorporating these self-care tips into your routine, you can nurture your physical, mental, and emotional health. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s an act of love and empowerment. Embrace the journey of self-care, and watch as it positively impacts both your life and the life of your own children.

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Where I left you

The past three years have been a rollercoaster of emotions and challenges for me. From the devastating loss of my husband followed by the Covid lockdown to navigating the complexities of single motherhood while being a small business owner, life has thrown its share of obstacles my way. Amidst it all, finding the time and strength to return to blogging has been a struggle. But here I am, ready to reconnect with you, my readers, and share the updates on my life.

My son and I have embarked on a long journey of heart healing. Therapy has played a crucial role in our lives, providing a safe space for both of us to express and process our emotions surrounding our loss. Our therapist has been a true blessing, offering guidance and support. It warms my heart to see my son opening up in ways he couldn’t before, and witnessing his growth and resilience fills me with pride. Together, we are navigating this sometimes lonely journey of motherhood, one step at a time.

Incredible as it may seem, my son, Maxwell, has completed first grade and is now ready to embark on his second-grade adventure. The passing of time brings a mix of emotions, but seeing him grow and thrive fills me with hope and joy. Witnessing his enthusiasm for learning and the way he embraces new experiences is a constant reminder of the resilience of children.

While balancing the demands of motherhood and my role as the owner of Mama Vibes Coffee and Mama Drip, I felt a calling to delve into the realm of healing. I have recently become a certified Reiki practitioner and established my own practice called Lemon and Lavender Healing. Healing has become an integral part of my life, and responding to this calling to become a healer myself feels like a natural progression. By combining my passion for nurturing others and the transformative power of Reiki, I am embarking on a new chapter filled with opportunities to support and uplift others.

As I reflect on the challenges, growth, and exciting developments in my life, I am grateful for the unwavering support of my readers and the strength I have found within myself. The journey may be arduous at times, but with each step, I am reminded of the power of healing, resilience, and the capacity for personal and professional growth. Thank you for being a part of my journey, and I look forward to sharing more with you as we navigate life’s twists and turns together.

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Becoming a widow in my 30s

A lot of people have many questions and won’t ask them which I really appreciate. It’s been a hard 7 months since the passing of my husband Clinton Robert Dunn.

I haven’t really had the desire to express myself verbally or in written form because quite honestly, as much as I have excepted it, I still, even in this moment find it so hard to believe. I mean there will be random times everyday where I stop what I’m doing and go “What the Fuck, this can’t be real life”. It is real. It is painful. The reality that our future together is over is an impossible pill to swallow. My son and I try to find peace through our routines and faith in God. My faith in God has only gotten stronger through this experience, he has seen us through some really tough moments and has revealed himself to me through the love of my family, my friends, and the compassion of strangers.

Clint loved life!! He loved me, he loved being a chef, but Maxwell was the love of his life. Being a father was something he wanted from the start. I’m so happy and blessed that we were able to make that a reality for him. I think that’s what hurts the most is that his journey was cut so short he will not be here to see Max turn 4 in two months. That breaks my fucking heart.

Dunn family beach day

Someone recently asked me about how I’m handling grief, probably not very well, but I’m doing the best I possibly can. Between Motherhood and building my business’s and utter sadness, I have no problem falling asleep anymore. I’m exhausted, and whatever hope for the future I feel or have felt is being threatened by Covid 19. What a time. I had a few trips planned to be with family but Max and I are staying safe at home and it’s lonely.

Clint was love. He had love for everyone. He was open to adventure, he was incredibly brave, and handsome. He was an amazing chef that studied his craft faithfully, he worked at some of the most amazing restaurants in Los Angeles. Sometimes I felt like I was competing for his love with the chef life, but in the end he made it very clear he chose me. We had our whole lives in front of us. Maxwell always ask me where he was in our wedding pictures, I always tell him you lived in our heart at that time. Now daddy lives there.

I’m not sure if I will ever get over this, but God willing I will keep moving forward for Max and myself.

Thank you for reading.


Tera Dunn

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